Pre-amble: Alright then, if you follow me on social media you already know this post is late. If you don’t, the let’s pretend nothing happened (whistles awkwardly and backs away, lol) this move, I’ve been waiting for so long, and hen it snuck right up and every day was full. I wanted to tell you stories but I go, go, go and then I’m so tired I have to sleep, and then I can’t sleep at night! Ugg. That’s the chronic pain, surgery recovery life. Let’s hope it settles once we slow down a bit at the lake house. I still have a number of posts I wanted to share with you so let’s pretend to time warp and we’re all set.
But pssst, before we start did you know there’s IGTV?! I am totally going to get my own tv show! For the first few days it will mostly be my ‘stories’ strung together but after that, let’s get this show on the road!!!
(Insert Wayne’s World time travel sound here)
Let’s talk the ” Military Move”. This is a common item that completely baffles the non military family. We are currently four days out from the move. How much have I packed? Zero. How much will I pack? Zero + booze + hair products). Even if I wanted to pack, I could do it but the movers would get here unpack what I packed, re-pack and probably be pretty annoyed I made more work for them. Cushy deal? Sure thing!! Except that little bit how you have to move whenever and wherever they tell you. So ok trade off..? I guess….. They do their best and we sign up for it, so it’s not like we’re being spoil sports here. It is hard to move a family so much, especially while it’s young. The oldest small is having a really hard time with this move. We’re doing our best to make it an amazing family experience but he’s really struggling. I hope that once we’re in the country he’s happier but I’m worried. How far is too far to push the kids? When is it exactly that we lose them? I can feel it happening, he’s pulling away. I’m lucky because I think he’s recessing and wanting to be with grandma and grandpa and I hope that’s a sign we’ve made a secure network he feels comfortable in. When is it that people lose their kids? We’re a good family, I know it’s been hard on us all and so much so the kids. They don’t get enough credit. Think back to when you were a kid and how much you knew that your parents didn’t think you knew. I know I’m a good mama, I just don’t want to lose this sweet little boy.
Let’s go back to move territory. Some common move questions:
Why don’t I pack my own house? This one seems strange but is really straightforward. It’s all about accountability. If I were to pack my own things and half of it showed up broken, there’s no way to verify when it broke. So they show up at your house pretty much as is. *Unless you’re us and then your husband tries to pre pack and takes everything off the walls, moves everything, and the house explodes in chaos* either way, you choose, lol. Hopefully you chose the easy option 🙄.
Either option leads to pretty much every single item in my home will end up with a sticker on it, that sticker will be logged when it leaves this home and logged back in when it enters my new home. There are military families I know people who have been out for decades and still find the moving stickers on their furniture. I would not be surprised if I found stickers on my underpants. If you look closely when you visit, or in photos I’m sure you’ll find them! If you find one in a photo (unintentional, I’ll buy you a Starbucks!!) Each move gets a new color, we were all just chatting on a spouses page ‘ooohhhh green’. That’s new!
Next question: What can’t you move? Anything liquid! No nail polish, no alcohol, no plants. Basically nothing ‘wet’.
What will they move? Everything else. You have literally got to empty your garbage can because they will show up and pack it. Not a joke. A spouse just posted this week they packed her mouldy potatoes and onions! For a 13 day journey across the country in the middle of summer. O. M. G. Have you ever smelled a rotten potato? It’s so much worse than you could imagine. The worst! She may as well file a claim now because everything in that truck is going to stink!
Next question! How does my family feel about making the move? Well this is hard. The honest answer is they do not love it. But!!! But it was honestly necessary. My injury was so bad, we needed a big Center. We needed to go somewhere with bigger pain clinics and where they were still willing to help me. No one was helping me anymore and if you’ve followed any of my story this past year you probably saw that I was dying. I was letting go and saying goodbye. I just couldn’t be in that much pain anymore. I’m so happy I found help here, and I’m not fixed but I’m better. I’m in a much more manageable level of pain. WhT does that mean for the fam? I still nO a lot, I’m still tired, BUT!!! I can do so much more with them, for them. I love it. I’m still total sucks and we’re looking at one more level in 2 months, but at least I’m here, and ok. I think that’s an okay sacrifice for the fam. They gained more years with mama and as much as they hate changes they have gotten to enjoy me so much more in the last three months and I hope this is just the starting point for our new lives.
Now let’s talk kids specifically!!
The kids are still kids, last week was their last session of therapy, followed by our last sessions ‘parent follow up’. We started therapy because Ben was struck by the car and we all had some PTSD. Honestly I still have way too much anxiety and I have a hard time walking with the fam. I know I have PTSD but right now it is keeping my kids safe. I know I need to work on letting it go and I promise I am trying.
Ben this year has made amazing strides. It will never be completely the old Benjamin and that breaks me heart. But when something that big happen in life, like being hit by a Volvo, it happens. You change. Ben’s teacher did so much for us this year. Actually Jacks too. They both made time to talk to our child psychologist, they did everything they could to form relationship, help along friendships, watch and care for them so much that I didn’t have to worry anymore. They were the above and beyond teachers. My advice is we didn’t start with either of these teachers. We switched in and it was one of the best things I have ever pushed for. Ever.
Today I hope is our last day in the city but we’ll see how it goes. Wish us much and watch for tons of updates on;
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plus the new IGTV!!! It’s my own show. Yay!!!